What does your 3-5 PM look like? For many parents, this can be one of the most challenging times of the day. The hours after school often bring a mix of exhaustion, pent-up energy, and big emotions. Our children have spent the entire day listening, following instructions, and navigating the rules and routines of school. By the time they walk through the front door, they’ve done an incredible job of holding it together without you. But the moment they see you, all that pent-up energy and emotion can lead to an explosion.
It might show up as excessive talking, charging around the house, or a sudden outburst of tears. This is the time when dysregulation can surface, and without a plan, it can quickly become overwhelming for both parent and child. That’s why it’s crucial to get aware, get ready, and get a plan in place to support your child’s transition from school to home.
1. Give Space
The first step is to create a buffer zone when they get home. Resist the urge to ask questions or make demands right away. Their day has been full of structure and expectations, so give them the space to decompress. Consider reducing after-school activities, especially in the early part of the school term, to give them the opportunity to unwind. Schedule points in the week dedicated to open-ended play where they can be free to explore and relax.
2. Offer a Chance to Recharge
After a long day, kids need a moment to recharge. Have a snack ready for them or make it a joint activity where you reconnect over preparing something together. Sensory support can also be incredibly helpful during this time. Each child is different, so it’s important to play detective and figure out what works best for them. Maybe they need to jump on the trampoline, punch a punching bag, or have a dance party to their favourite Taylor Swift song. For others, quiet time with creative activities like art or sand trays might be more soothing to the nervous system.
Top Tips for After-School Transition: Release, Recharge, and Reconnect
Release: Allow them to let out the energy they’ve been holding onto all day, whether that’s through physical activity, creative expression, or simply having some quiet time.
Recharge: Refuel with a snack and activity that suits their regulation needs.
Reconnect: Once they’ve had time to settle, engage in open-ended play or a shared activity like cooking, or art. This helps create a relaxed environment where conversation can flow more naturally.
Renowned parenting expert Laura Markham suggests setting aside 10 minutes of one-on-one time with each child. This dedicated time helps meet their connection needs, reduces emotional tension, and reinforces the feeling that you are on their team.
By creating a routine that honours their need for space, recharging, and connection, we can help our children feel seen, heard, and supported during this crucial part of the day. It’s about offering them the space to unwind, opportunities to talk, and, most importantly, the reassurance that you’re there for them, no matter what.
If the end of the day feels tough and you need a more tailored approached, get in touch.
I offer 1:1 coaching to match your families unique needs. By working together for 3 or 6 months you will:
Conquer overwhelm with a tailored family plan.
Create the environment for smooth transitions with proven tools and techniques.
Implement strategies for emotional regulation, ensuring a calm and supportive home environment.
Enhance communication skills for effective interactions with teachers.
Check in on lagging skills and address them promptly.
Embed learning to secure skills.
Leverage your child’s strengths to build confidence and resilience.
Support your child’s self-advocacy skills.
Email Jo@TheEarlyYearsCoach.com to book a FREE discovery call to find out more.
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